Sick and tired of a disastrous dating life? Tighten up your act by following these 10 rules from a woman who's making the topic of dating her business. (Guys, you might want to check in so you know how to behave, too.)
Rule No 1: Always let him make the first move.
Chuck out the girl power placard. Men are hunters so if you chase, you’ll loose. A bit Victorian? Yes, but you’ll thank me later.
Rule No 2: Never accept another date from a guy who cancels a date.
Just think about it. If he cancels out on you, he’s most likely not that keen. Dairies can be moved around and you should be first priority, not his work or other last minute engagements. Move on as quickly as possible because you deserve better.
Rule No 3: Accept dates only by phone calls, not texts or emails.
Scrap the techno times theme and the belief that it is OK for a guy to ask for a date through by texting you. It’s just rude and uncaring. If he appreciates the airtime that he is going to get with you, then he should take time to call you for a date.
Rule No 4: Allow him to check in on date night first.
It's a guy’s job to call you on the morning of your date to confirm your upcoming time together. If he hasn’t checked in at least four hours before date time, assume the date is off. But then be sure to let him know this, in your own sweet way. Indifference towards you is not an option. And oh, don’t forget Rule No 2.
Rule No 5: Allow him to pay for the first date, the next and the one after that too
Men invest in something they believe in and value. If he’s really into you, he’s keen to show off that he can provide for you so please do allow him the pleasure to do so.
Rule No 6: Keep your dates short and sweet.
Keep dates short, sweet and together. Anything beyond three hours on your first date is really overkill, really.
Rule No 7: Never propose a second date after the first.
Here as well, it's his place to do so. Proposing date No 2 screams, "I'm Desperate, Take me Now!"
Rule No 8: Never see a new date more than once a week.
Pace yourself. He’s not going anywhere. You obsessing about seeing him more than once in a week is going to make you crash fast. Let him miss you.
Rule No 9: No sex in the first 100 dating days
Definitely no sex on the first date, and not during the qualifying period (the first 100 days) either. Keeping off sex in the first 100 days helps you to maintain your focus on the most important things.
Rule No 10: Spread your net, far and wide
Date more than one guy at a time. Spreading your energy around stops you from obsessing too much about one guy. Of course, you should narrow your focus down as you get closer and closer to the first 100 days.